Movie Magic!

This morning I had a revelation and wanted to write about it. Let me preface it with this..
When I was younger I subscribed to Zillions magazine, which was basically Consumer Reports for kids. In one issue, the magazine looked into commercials for board games. Research found that in a majority of the commercials, a boy was depicted as being the "winner" of the game. Hardly any ads featured a girl winning. Even for the "girlier" games like Mall Madness, those commercials showed no clear "winner." Zillions apparently thought this was sexism in advertising. As a 10 year old girl, I was disheartened.
Much like this concept, I’ve noticed a similar approach to blockbuster films. Think about it. I can think of title after title where the plot goes something like this: Geeky science fair-type teenager is in love with gorgeous high school girl who’s dating the captain of the football team. Eventually, she falls for the nerd and jilts He-Man. OR a movie that goes something like this: Homely shy teenage girl is crushing hard on her guy friend (who is most likely in love with the gorgeous girl dating the captain of the football team). While guy is pursuing underage hotness, his friend gets a makeover. All of a sudden the dense dude "notices" his new and improved friend - they live happily ever after, or until one of them leaves for college in another state. Another take on this idea is a film (Drive Me Crazy, anyone?) where a well-adjusted beautiful girl learns to love a sloppy neighbor. Can’t Buy Me Love, Clueless, Secret Admirer, 10 Things I Hate About You, Revenge of the Nerds, Breakfast Club (multiple examples), etc etc etc...
My point is that, I can think of VERY FEW, if any movies where a hot guy ends up with a less-attractive girl. The film that sort of fits this theme is Babycakes starring Ricki Lake, where her character - an overweight woman - lands the hunk.. And yes, I’d like to forget about that movie too. Is this saying that girls are expected to be less superficial than their male counterparts? Hollywood is telling young women everywhere that they either need to go for the pocket-protector types/guys that don’t take a shower, or get a push-up bra and raid department store cosmetics counters in order to impress the more attractive dudes. Rarely, does it seem that teenage guys are encouraged to look beneath a female’s surface. They can get any girl because culture dictates it. One example that comes to mind is the movie the Breakfast Club. Princess-y Claire is sexually harassed by Judd Nelson’s character (who by today’s standards is bomb-threat Dylan Klebold material), but by the end of the movie she is giving him diamond earrings and making out with him in front of her uptight rich father. Meanwhile, Ally Sheedy plays the "basketcase" crazy girl who enjoys seeing her dandruff flakes fall out of her hair. Emilio Estevez all of a sudden notices her cuteness factor in the last five minutes of the movie, only after Claire "transforms" her by putting a bow in her hair and applying eyeliner on the poor girl.
The only movie I can think of that even remotely promotes healthy attraction is Garden State. It was refreshing to think that a guy can fall for a zany girl with epilepsy who lives at home with a gazillion pets. Sure, she was quirky - but that just made Natalie Portman even more lovable. Most movies don’t portray that girls are three dimensional. They're not "complicated" and they are easily categorized. It’s just so hard to find a movie with an interesting female in it these days.
I have a difficult time watching "chick flicks." They make me depressed. I’d like to think that the guys played by actors like John Cusack and Bill Pullman really do exist, but I know that I shouldn’t get my hopes up. Their characters are so out of touch with reality, they give us a distorted view of what guys are like.
So I’m not sure what do to. Are there any really good REALISTIC romance films? If so, please enlighten me. I am losing faith!